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How to act after a hookup with a friend


Yes, I was listening to angst filled music hoping that if I moped long enough maybe, just maybe my heart head would understand that I was trying to forget someone. What was I thinking when I decided hooking up with him would help me move on?

What drove me crazy was the fact that I did know that it would lead to nowhere, but hey, we were close friends, I held onto that for dear life when I was fooling myself into thinking there could be more to us.

The emotional exhaustion I went through just to trying to get over him and equally wondering if it could be more was maddening; which is why I feel the need to let you know that it will be okay. This ladies and gentlemen is everything leading up to how I got over my friend…. The Day How to act after a hookup with a friend After: You will most definitely wake up with late night thoughts about him. And let me tell you: You will daydream about the possibility of you two together and how much of a match it would be.

Hmm, no text from him.

Of course, be extra mindful...

You certainly cannot say anything cause then it may seem like you are desperate or show that it meant more than what it was. At some point, you realize you are going to see him. At this point in time you realize if he really wanted to say something to you about that night he would have made an effort, no one waits this long.

So you play it cool, while making sure you How to act after a hookup with a friend as good as you can. Aaaand he seems to not really be looking at you. Oh wait, he is addressing you, and talking to you…about the weather. Try to smile, seem totally carefree. Oh gosh, this is so weird. There is definitely some sort of wall put up between us. The Regret and the Other Girl: When you try to believe that things are great and realizing you are not special.

Your mind goes against itself. The main thing is that you are trying to detach yourself emotionally from that night and the memories. You want to believe that it is simply just a night that happened and that was that. On the other hand, your brain is overanalyzing everything and going haywire thinking that night was a complete mistake because you guys will never be the best friends you once were. That there is a sudden divide and you might as well give up now believe me, you may develop some serious trust issues.

Everyone wants to know what is going on with you guys, ha! You wish you knew! And that one chick who craves drama wants to know simply for the purpose of letting her own friend know whether or not she has a shot with him. At this point, you simply pretend and pretend and pretend. Your anger comes from knowing that you are in denial.

It's pretty obvious you're about...

As for the guy himself, he is as normal as ever. Maybe this weirdness is simply coming from you? Try to be cool. She is trying to get him without any shame of how desperate she is appearing. Yeah, you spent one night with him, but maybe they have too. I mean you know that girl definitely had a brief thing with him, twice. At least, he is respectful enough How to act after a hookup with a friend not shove it in your face but unbeknownst to him, word certainly gets around.

It is too late, to bring that night up, but you know you have thought about him more than he has thought about you. And that my friend, is the beginning. The beginning to realizing you have wasted your time on an idea. You fell for an illusion. You cannot blame anyone but yourself.

You will both remember that night, as what it truly was, a night that was fun and worth experiencing. Because it did help you move on after a confusing few months.

But you know what; you did have to let yourself feel what you felt. And this time, you look him in the eyes, and you are taken aback, not because of their beauty and the secrets they hold, but because you can look into his eyes and finally not look away from being flustered.

No, instead, you talk to him like before, about life and music and everything you felt that was filtered before. All the efforts of trying to be coy, trying to be someone else, just made you waste your time.

It's pretty obvious you're about...

Just remember, the dark times will certainly pass. Even when you begin to think you have accepted the fact that you will never move on or like anyone the way you like him, there will be a morning when that is simply a thought of the past.

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