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How to make your life better and happier

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We tend to put other people's happiness before our own and make excuses for the reasons why we neglect our needs - we are too busy, too skint, too stressed out. If you don't value your own happiness then no one else will.

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It is entirely possible to look out for your own needs and still care about your friends and family. If you are happy, you are more likely to How to make your life better and happier happiness and care for those around you. Think about what makes you happy. Now what would make me delirious would be to wake late, eat cake, drink wine and spend the day sunbathing somewhere on a hot and beautiful beach. That's not realistic at this point in my life as I think my kids would have something to say about it!

But what does make me happy is writing, fresh linen, watching a good film, open fires, sauvignon blanc, walking in the woods with the dog, my chickens, a good meal with awesome friends, a lie in with my husband, dancing There are a LOT of things that make me happy that cost little or nothing and those things I make time for.

It's easy to neglect your own desires but so important that you don't. Who are the people that you enjoy spending time with? Who makes you happy, who loves, respects and appreciates you and who makes you want to be a better person? If you surround yourself with negative people then your life will be filled with negativity, and the opposite is true also, being around positive, happy people make you aspire to be positive and happy.

Sometimes we can't help whom we have to spend time with, we may have work colleagues or family members who are Debbie Downers and we have to hang out with them at times. But in our social lives it is so important to keep awesome and positive people around us, the ones who make us laugh, who are joyous to be around. Some of the people who make me happy are filthy minded, raucous and quite dark! But they are interesting and make me feel good about myself.

This is a biggy for me, the trait I hate the most in people is refusing to take responsibility for their own lives. People who have constant excuses for their bad behaviour, who think it is always someone or something else's fault.

People who say "its alright for you because Live, learn and move on. The world doesn't owe you anything; you make your own path through this world. Everyone faces hardships throughout their life and you can choose to be a martyr to your tough times or own the shit out of them and move forward as a stronger person.

Be the best version of yourself that you can be. Be true to yourself and be proud of the person you are. It's easy to compare ourselves to others, and the fact is, there will always be someone thinner, smarter and prettier - but honestly, who cares? Be proud of your quirks and weirdness, stand tall and proud and applaud your inner How to make your life better and happier No one can change your life and make you truly happy except you.

Choose positivity over negativity and smile because you can. Choose to be happy with who you are right now and allow your joy to shape your present and your future. Do the things that make you happy more often, spend time with those who bring out your smile and create your own happiness. When you are going through a tough time it is easy to slip into feeling defeated and that life is just too hard.

We go through things in life that we think will break us. Illness, bereavement, job loss, money troubles, and it can feel like there is no way to get through these times. The truth is we are stronger than we think. It is important to look for the silver lining even if that is only the tiniest sliver of hope. If there is no silver lining in your situation, for example the death of a loved one, then try to count your blessings and be grateful of the good things in your life.

When things are hard, and you feel down, take a few deep breaths and remind yourself that you can and will grow stronger from these hard times. Remain conscious of your blessings and victories, of all the things in your life that are right. Be a kind How to make your life better and happier, one who is caring and thoughtful, who thinks of others and treats people with respect. Its a simple one but so important. Be open; share your thoughts and feelings with the people closest to you.

If you are hurting then accept the hurt and allow yourself time to heal, let your loved ones in and be honest with them. A problem shared is a problem halved, the act of speaking your troubles out loud can be of as much help as any advice you may receive.

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Becoming a more open person can lead to real happiness. Our pasts define who we are and we can learn lessons from the things we have gone through, but when your past is keeping you from moving forward it becomes a problem. We have all had tough experiences but if you are reliving the pain of this experience again and again and it is affecting your present then it is time to let go.

Letting go doesn't mean forgetting what has happened or pretending it didn't happen, it means letting go of the pain and resentment that is holding you back.

This is easier in some situations than others, but be honest with yourself and if something from your past is affecting your present then it may be time to talk through those issues either with a trusted friend or family member or a trained therapist. Two years ago my husband and I took a leap of faith, we sold our home and rented a 15th century mill to push our photography business forward.

It was a risk, but a calculated risk. I knew that if there was a motto to live by other than 'If you can't sing well, sing LOUD' it was 'I'd rather regret the things I did, than the things I didn't do. And it was the best thing we ever did, don't get me wrong there have been some very tough times but I knew we had made the right decision.

Life is not about getting a chance; it is about taking a chance. If there is something you have always dreamed of doing, then try to make it happen.

If it works you will have achieved a goal, if it doesn't you know you at least tried it and you WILL learn a lesson from it. Live in the present, in the here and now. It is so easy to let busy lives, technology and procrastination take over our lives, but being mindful of the things around you can bring peace and happiness into your life.

Take time to notice the things that are important in your life right now, experience life as it happens. Don't dwell on the past or imagine how great things could be in the future. This moment is the only thing guaranteed to you in life, we never know what the future holds so enjoy How to make your life better and happier. Worry and stress is a normal part of life but when your day is taken up with worrying about the things in life you cannot control it is a sign that things need to change.

Worrying about things that are beyond your control is such a waste of your time and emotional energy. Worry affects you, not the person or situation you are worrying about.

If it is important to you and you can control the outcome and positively help a problem then great, if not then let it go. You have enough genuine problems to face in life without upsetting yourself with things beyond your control.

There's no point in burying your head in the sand, if you have a problem, you How to make your life better and happier to face it head on and make a positive change as no one is going to do it for you. The problem will not just disappear on it's own without action from you and no problem is too big to overcome. It takes acceptance from you and then a plan, no matter how small the steps, you need to do little and often and move it forward.

Some problems you will be able to overcome alone with a good old-fashioned list and a bit of hard work. Others are bigger and need support from others.

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There is no shame in asking for help, whether it is the help of friends, family or a professional. There will always be someone better off than you and someone worse off than you.

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Learn to appreciate the things you have, rather than worrying about the things you don't. I'm not saying we shouldn't aspire to be greater than we are now, but don't be so busy in thinking of the things that you don't have that you forget to appreciate all you do.

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Appreciate and love those around you, bring joy to the people who mean the most by telling them how much they mean to you. Since my sister moved to Australia I end all our conversations with "love you" I didn't do this before she left but her moving half way around the world brought out something in me that makes me want her to know how much she means to me. This isn't about huge grand gestures, it is about personal, meaningful acts that let your friends and family know how awesome they are.

A text message, sending a photo that you think they'll find How to make your life better and happier, a hug, a few words. What a perfect summary. Expressed with clarity and wisdom- I will pin it to my wall- thank you Sam. I'm wondering if you'd like to be one of first 'happy club' founders - we're launching something in January. I think that the best way to become happy is to decide to become happy.

We just accept the fact that whatever we do, we can't be perfect. The only thing that we can do with this life to find happiness. And it starts inside us. Thanks for this joyful article.

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Create your own happiness No one can change your life and make you truly happy except you. If you are waiting for someone else to make you happy, you may be waiting a long time. Find the silver lining When you are going through a tough time it is easy to slip into feeling defeated and that life is just too hard. Be kind Be a kind person, one who is caring and thoughtful, who "How to make your life better and happier" of others and treats people with respect.

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